Updated: Dec 6, 2020
How many times lately have you considered turning in a resignation letter to your boss? Once, twice or thrice, maybe? We've all been there. Each of us, at one point or another, felt that impulse to quit our job.
You don't have to feel bad about it because as humans, we are born with emotions that influence our actions or decisions and free will to decide what's going to be the best deal for us.
However, quitting your job should never be out of an impulsive burst of emotion such as extreme anger, disappointment, or even excitement. Depending too much on our emotions can induce us to make irrational choices.
The following are (perhaps) justifiable reasons you need to quit your job.
Your family, your priority
I understand that most husbands and wives are forced to both work to make ends meet. With a struggling economy, the low- and median-income families are often those affected most. At times of financial constraints we are left with no choice but to leave our children under the care of others, such as the day care staff or nannies, so we can work and contribute to the family's finances. However, the painful truth is that we are also actually risking to neglect our spouse and children especially if we get so tied at work.
I was born in the Philippines and growing up, we had helpers to assist us in our daily lives. It is affordable to get the necessary help in the Philippines. Here in the US, it would be impossible for most households (including my family) to hire a full time helper to aid with our house chores. This condition causes us to lose precious time supposedly spent with our spouse and/or children.
We might, unintentionally, neglect their physical; emotional; and social needs. Moreover, a lot of working parents (including myself at times) are guilty of allowing the gadget nannies (laptops, tablets, smart phones, etc.) to replace our presence and fulfill our responsibilities. These are heartbreaking truths that many of us face or used to face.
Considering taking a part time job for one of the parents so s/he can dedicate more attention to the family's holistic needs may sound great. Now this can be more difficult for a single parent who solely makes a living for his/her children. Extra effort is then required to ensure that the child/children still feel cared about. Our family needs us more than anybody else in this world.
Prolonged stress, such as that brought about by work-life imbalance can also decrease a person's desire for intimacy; hence, marital sexual life can also be affected. There could also be times when a spouse will easily flare-up of anger when things aren't going well with his/her work; and this could lead to disruptive and heated discussions at home.
With all these considerations, focus on the quality of time if quantity cannot be extended.
Playing fun family games is a sure way to spend quality time with your loved ones. Fill your home with love and laughter.
Competency is vital to success; and we cannot underrate the value of education in honing our knowledge and skills. Going up the career ladder, such as being a department head or getting into a managerial role, often requires special certifications or degree.
Some people have to quit their current job to go back to university. Although some companies will be much more willing to support an employee's desire to go back to school, many really aren't. Those companies who are supportive might even offer educational benefits/ scholarship or flexible work schedule so their employees would be encouraged to continue education.
On the other hand, many companies will have to make you choose between work and school. We cannot blame them especially if your position demands your full attention as it is critical to the organization's survival and daily operations. If this becomes your case and finance isn't really a problem, then perhaps you shouldn't be afraid to lose your current job. Pursuing your education could offer better opportunities in the future.
A highly competent individual who has been performing similar tasks at work everyday is at risk of quitting the job sooner or later. There will be times when an employee who has so much to offer to his/her organization is given too little opportunities to do so. If this is you, I know you may feel so disappointed at yourself for not being able to maximize your talents or at your boss for not seeing your value.
Leaving a job for personal development isn't a bad idea at all. We all ought to continue growing personally and professionally.
I just hope you'll know when is really the right time for you to leave your job. Have you really mastered your craft that your current workplace could offer you nothing more for personal betterment?
Also, don't be afraid to sail the ocean. Sometimes, we get stuck with a job that does not make us a better person or professional because of strong emotional attachment to the people we work with. Focus on your long-term goals; besides, you can always keep your connection with valued friends/ colleagues.
Others leave the job to open their own business (e.g. buffet business, pawnshop business, forex trading business, rental business, blogging, product distribution, etc). These are the people who look for freedom outside the 9-5 job. You may also want to read my articles on Most Viable Ways to Earn Passive Income and What Owning a Business Could Do To Your Life.
From a nurse's perspectives, health isn't confined to our physical state of wellness. According to World Health Organization (WHO):
Health is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
Surely (and sadly), one needs to let go of his/her beloved job if the physical body does not permit it anymore. Consider alternatives which would require less stress that your body can handle.
Going back to the definition of health, you might also have to leave your job when it is putting too much toll on your emotional or social health. Some careers can be quite depression-prone than others (as also cited from a news). Among these are: (1) nursing home/ child -are workers; (2) food service staff, (3) social workers, (4) health care workers, (5) artists, entertainers, writers, (6) teachers, (7) administrative support staff, (8) maintenance and ground workers, (9) financial advisors and accountants, and (10) salespeople.
It would be best to seek proper medical advice if you are experiencing any sign or symptom of depression and/or any other mental health alteration. Doing so before deciding to quit on your job can help you make rational decisions not based on emotions.
Staying happy and optimistic can also help prevent emotional distress. A genuine smile from someone can brighten up someone's gloomy day. Likewise, being happy and optimistic can fire up your success.
Unsuitable climate or other environmental conditions
Climate or other environmental factors may not be conducive for one's health; hence he/she might decide to quit job and move to another place. For an instance, extreme cold weather might not be that suitable for some people, such as those with certain heart ailments and autoimmune conditions. It places additional stress on the body which could cause flares. The body's response, however, may vary from one person to another.
Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that is influenced by change in seasons; although the exact cause of SAD is unknown. Manifestations of depression are usually noticed during the late fall and early winter when there is less sunlight, but go away during spring and summer. Another name for SAD is winter-onset depression.
Poor environmental work conditions are also factors for consideration on whether to stay or to quit. For an instance, I have spoken to some people in the past who decided to leave their workplace because they perceive single or prolonged exposure to harmful toxic chemicals.
For all of these, don't forget to talk to your healthcare provided if you feel you need further assessment or treatment.
Truly unfair remuneration and benefits
One of the primary motivators for people to work hard is money. The amount of salary we get dictates, to a large extent, our quality of life and living.
If you feel you're not getting fair compensation or benefits in exchange of your quality output, talk to your manager first and see if there is anything he/she can help you with. Be assertive and not aggressive, in negotiating for a salary increase. Learn to communicate effectively your needs and desires.
Do not immediately resign from your job if you have nowhere to go to. You can never go wrong with adequate planning before doing some kind of decision.
Poor working relationship with supervisor or fellow workers/
Toxic work environment
Don't be pessimistic about this one. We know the fact that no matter how one may try to be nice to others there will always be that someone who'd make that person's work life miserable.
Bullying, a form of abuse, at the workplace is a common problem that managers and leaders oftentimes overlook. Whether subtle (as done by a clever bully) or vulgar, habitual mistreatment from others can cause physical, emotional and social consequences. Hurtful words, remarks or jokes; sexual assaults; intimidation; ganging; threatening or attacking with harmful objects or weapons; exclusion or social isolation; indifferent treatment; and yelling are just some of the common manifestations of workplace bullying.
You might also want to read my article on 'What is Workplace Bullying and What Are Its Types?'
All employees have the right to be free from violence, harassment, and bullying. Talking to a reputable manager about your feelings can be of help to resolve the problem. Managers should be knowledgeable on how to appropriately and legally handle such matters.
If you have the confidence to talk to the bully, tell him/her directly and specifically that such behaviors are not acceptable and are unwanted. Be calm and self-assured; do not be provocative. Directly addressing your concerns to the bully shows resistance and hopefully, he/she will back off.
If nonviolent resolutions still fail, go and get some professional help because the effects of bullying (e.g. stress, anxiety, alteration in sleeping pattern, diminished self-confidence, depression, poor work performance, etc.) can be so devastating on your personal and professional life.
Strategically plan your organizational exit if this is going to be your last resort.
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